THE ANGRY CHILD

HOW TO HELP CHILDREN MANAGE THEIR ANGER

Question: Is it ok for kids to get angry?

Yes, it is normal and healthy for kids to experience and express anger. Anger is a natural emotion that can be a response to frustration, disappointment, or other situations that they may find challenging. It is important for children to learn how to manage their ANGER in a constructive way, such as through communication, problem-solving, and self-regulation techniques. Parents and caregivers can teach kids appropriate ways to express and deal with anger while also helping them understand and manage their emotions effectively.

Although we live in a world where leaders have appropriate respect to themselves only and neglect the respect for children even the traditional and religious leaders! Are guilty of this, I am talking of the Christian religion. 

Show me the place in the Bible where it is written that children should obey their parents. Is there any? Yes there is! In Colossians 3:20-21 KJV.  The Holy Bible said. Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. [21] Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

Now this is the error of parents and teachers, the Bible says children obey your parents in all things! That word cannot stop a child from being angry. The children as a human being have a right and their right must be listened to and respected. Parents must as adults listen to and respect the rights of the children so as to help them manage their anger, that's what Apostle Paul  said in verse 21 of colossians 3. Father's do not provoke  your children to anger.

We indeed talk and teach about verse 20 of Colossian 3, but we don't talk or teach about verse 21. Now in Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV. The Holy Bible said. Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. [2] Honour thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment with promise;) [3] That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. [4] And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

Many of our teachers and elders today give you the childrens part to obey, children obey your parents, children honor thy father and thy mother, giving and teaching you the promises but they also forgot that these children need help and motivation to help them manage their emotions, to help them manage their anger and put them in the right part of emotional stability. 

I will say this again, if you correct a child out of anger, you have not helped the child. If you correct a child with love it will make them feel the warmth of your embrace and give them the all inclusive mindset. 

Many children are suffering today because of what elders are preaching and teaching, killing the child's self esteem through bullies. Most children live and grow up under an inferiority complex as a result of bullies that trouble them all through their life, and the impact of their production will be little or zero on their families and society making many in their lifetime dependent on governments or other relatives. 

I want to beg parents, I want to beg preachers, I want to beg every leader of tradition to please “respect the rights of the child” . They have the right to be heard, they have the right to be angry, please listen to them and help them manage their anger and their emotions. God bless you.

Apt. Peter Izoduwa